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"As we've seen time and again, so many of you would fuck a picket fence if it were white."

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think I'm done with RP but I still want to play my silly celeb somewhere and the pickles are slim.

[(Anonymous)]

I love slim pickles.

[(Anonymous)]

Alright, who reported Dreamwidth as a malware site on AdGuard?

[(Anonymous)]

It could be related to the most recent code push. Somebody already notified them about it and if there is anything to fix on DW's side then they'll be on it asap.

[(Anonymous)]

To the anon on the last page, he's not taking essentals, he's just taking stuff like ice cream, and he doesn't need food, he just feels entitled. He has no issues going to the package store for booze and cigars, but he finds grocery shopping tedious so he likes to use my fridge as a pantry.

[(Anonymous)]

Can you get a mini fridge or freezer for your room? Or ask your brother to start meeting him downstairs? Does your brother even care?

[(Anonymous)]

I met the CLASSIEST married couple today anons, they're two men with one son and the entire family is so elegant and charming that I'm really looking forward to having them as clients. One of them is a professional violinist with a major symphony orchestra as well as a private violin teacher, the other is a private caterer who graduated from an extremely prestigious culinary academy in London and is insanely talented, and their son is a principal ballet dancer with the NYC ballet company at sixteen years old. Their net worth is hundreds of thousands of dollars and they live in this gorgeous upper east side penthouse so I was expecting a pair of condescending snobs, but they were SO sweet. We had our first meeting today, and they brought me a hot tea and a beautiful box of the chef husband's award winning pastries, I was completely enamored with them by the time they left. They love their son so much, they were showing me videos of his performances on their phones, and it was a really nice afternoon. When I mentioned the fees involved, the violinist turned to his husband and said, "That's all we're paying her? That's not nearly enough." It's nice to know there's still some good ones left in the world.

[(Anonymous)]

May I just say a big fuck you to Chanel for ruining one of my favorite classic rock songs with Timmy's grotesque face.

[(Anonymous)]

I still can't believe anons cream themselves over that gross looking industry plant.

[(Anonymous)]

Remember the anons that were mad about people writing scenes in two different cities at once and had a grand plan to call them out IC over it and got mad when people said that was insane?

[(Anonymous)]

How could they call them out IC anyway? Does their character also teleport and spy on people in private one on one settings?

[(Anonymous)]

I have a hard time writing characters who can be sympathetic to anything white characters are dealing with. It doesn't matter if it's childhood abuse or cancer or infertility in terms of how serious it is, I can't make myself care about made up hardship for lily white people who get everything handed to them in the real world so they RP tragedy for fun.

[(Anonymous)]

I die off on any conversation with someone that involves cancer because it's quite triggering for me anyway but the unrealistic as all fuck way IJ treats it makes it even worse.

[(Anonymous)]

Holy shit. We already knew she wasn't the best person, but I'm still shocked to see Lizzo bodyshamed and sexually harassed her employees. That's so awful.

[(Anonymous)]

It's disgusting that she pretends to stand for inclusivity and body positivity and then acts like this. Like you said, we already knew she was kinda terrible but reading the story about what she made her dancers participate in without their consent made my stomach turn.

[(Anonymous)]

My biggest RP pet peeve is people referencing an ongoing and unfinished scene in custom conversations. I don't mind having both going on at the same time if they're different topics, but I have no idea how I'm supposed to respond to something that's still playing out, and especially if you're talking to my character as if the scene went a certain way when it hasn't yet. If you don't want to write the scene anymore, just ask to plot, or else now I just have no desire to finish the scene or continue chatting in customs.

[(Anonymous)]

I hate that too. Or if they change things in a scene based on what happened in conversation after the scene started.

[(Anonymous)]

Some of you just sound like you need to work on being better human beings. Aggressive and always wanting to find someone to take your anger out on.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

I am uncomfortable when we are not about me?

[(Anonymous)]

There are two people I've been friends with since college and who I like and appreciate as casual friends most of the time, but sometimes they each remind me that they're just awful fucking people and would fit in wonderfully with some of you assholes. One of them is VERY loud about how she's an empath and if you so much as say something very mildly annoyed you like "my hair tie snapped when I was putting my head up" she gets dramatic and theatrical about how she doesn't have the emotional bandwidth to absorb your pain right now, so please focus only on good thoughts. And the other one is the exact opposite to the point that no matter how mild or serious what you're going through is, she just acts like you're inconveniencing her for it. After my dad died, she wanted to go to a concert in another city and I said I wasn't up to it because I was upset about my dad dying which she knew happened and she huffed and said, "Um, so am I not supposed to enjoy my weekend then or what? Why are you telling me this instead of just saying no? I'm still going." And we stopped talking for over a year and now I was just reminded of it and can't believe we started being friends again because she has not changed at all.

[(Anonymous)]

Anon with all due respect, you are a Guillermo stuck between an Evie and Colin Robinson. Don't let them drain you.

[(Anonymous)]

It's sad to me to see harassment journals that made my life hell six years ago... still pulling the same shit. So many rpers are just wretched, miserable pieces of work, it makes me feel bad for the people they know irl.

[(Anonymous)]

Count your lucky stars you didn't turn out like that and will never have that ugliness on your conscience, anon!

[(Anonymous)]

Full disclosure that I'm probably obviously autistic, but I want some advice on social rules, so please be kind.

If somebody comments you apologizing that they haven't replied to a scene yet and saying that they'll reply in the morning, are you supposed to reply to that kind of pic comment every time? Somebody did this to me a couple weeks ago and I replied saying np take your time. But then after my next reply, they did it again. I never replied, I guess because it felt kind of redundant to keep saying np take your time and I don't need that level of in depth communication after a day with no scene reply, but now I ran into them while I'm looking for a new sl and they recognized me. They're saying they assumed I flaked on the sl because I didn't reply to that ooc comment. I don't get it. If there was a question or request for info in the comment, I'd understand, but I don't know why that comment needed any response. I was just waiting patiently for a scene reply. I'd even finished writing my character bio while waiting, so it's not like there was complete inactivity on my end.

[(Anonymous)]

I think some people would expect a reply but I would be annoyed that it'd happened again and just be waiting for a reply too and not feel it's necessary to reply again. To be polite and dumb I would probably reply a second time but by the third time I would be giving up.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like no matter how I try to word this comment to end this SL with my SLP whose activity has dropped dramatically sounds mean and I really don't mean for it to because I love them and the SL but I don't want to keep hanging on their every word hoping they'll be active again when I know they won't.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry anon, this is always hard. Do you know what has happened for their activity to drop, or is it a recurring thing?

[(Anonymous)]

I wish there was a projected timeline for how long it takes/how much therapy is needed before you let go of people pleasing. I'm so fucking tired.

[(Anonymous)]

Wouldn't that be amazing? Sadly, it's all up to our minds to figure out when we decided to let go of that habit. I would suggest checking out or discussing CBT therapy with your therapist.

[(Anonymous)]

I am so tired of having to pretend I’m interested in long rambling stories about my boss’s dogs.

[(Anonymous)]

For anyone who has modded before, can you give insight into the process? I would be interested in opening a new community but aside from the challenges of getting it started, every moderator I have interacted with seems completely miserable.

[(Anonymous)]

The last time I modded anything was on GJ. Oh how times were different then.

[(Anonymous)]

Back on the GJ days I was going to mod an offshoot gpsl from a successful comm and didn't understand how customs worked yet, so I added all the folks I didn't want to know about the gpsl to a custom and posted about the gpsl instead of the people that I wanted to join like an absolute idiot.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm someone who struggles with depression and a side effect of that is having very poor personal hygiene, but for the last few days I've made myself brush my hair, wash my face and brush my teeth and it's truly incredible how just those few small things can improve mental health and it's giving me energy to do other household things I've fallen behind on lately.

[(Anonymous)]

Well done anon! I am very proud of you and wish you a day of success around the house. Blast some music and order something nice for dinner as a reward for being so wonderful today.

[(Anonymous)]

I hate cocomelon so much, I genuinely think it's pure evil.

[(Anonymous)]

Is it possible to rename an asylum? One page says yes, another says no!

[(Anonymous)]

Yes it is! On this page:
https://www.insanejournal.com/rename/use.bml?token=1234567

There is an option at the top to 'Work as account'. You have to be logged in under the username that controls the asylum.

[(Anonymous)]

I keep trying to make these sweet moments happen in my scene or even to just get my slp's person to acknowledge mine and theirs is just completely ignoring my person in a context that makes no sense at all and isn't interacting with them at all and I just give up. This isn't fucking fun anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

Sounds like time to move on which is a very frustrating point to get to.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't make pretty icons, so why am I thinking of making an icon journal.

[(Anonymous)]

Someone might like them. Not everyone has the same aesthetic.

[(Anonymous)]

I can't believe I had a dream that I was sleeping.