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"As we've seen time and again, so many of you would fuck a picket fence if it were white."

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[(Anonymous)]

Dw to see the Barbie movie but I don't want to see it in theater but I also don't want to have to wait for it to come out on video.

[(Anonymous)]

The cam version online isn't that bad you should try it.

[(Anonymous)]

(Anonymous)
2023-08-12 12:25 am (UTC)(link)
This is why I hate it when people say that sometimes they use rp to “work through their own issues emotionally.” Please find a therapist and don’t inflict that on a bunch of people who haven’t consented to it even if you do use trigger warnings. This has happened with two separate characters in a comm I’m in and I can’t stand it.

Just commenting to say that I just picked up a character at the recommendation of my therapist who knows this is my hobby who felt it might help me to write through some of the feelings I have relating to a personal trauma.

[(Anonymous)]

I hope that you've discussed anything potentially tw with your SLP before you drop any sort of trauma on someone. Otherwise I'd recommend writing through your feelings alone, I would personally hate to have emotionally draining things written into a line without consent even if it was cathartic for my SLP, I shouldn't be responsible for emotional bandwidth if I don't have any in my hobby.

[(Anonymous)]

One of the women at my job has started running a small business on the side and everybody in our group has been supporting her and chipping in to help (web design, graphic design, transportation, etc) myself included. She has saved A LOT of money on labor because of us doing all this for free. Our group has always had a familial type of feel to it, and I know she needs the money due to her husband's medical problems, so we were all happy to help. Cut to tonight, I was helping her with some organization and paperwork for her business after we finished our actual work, and I found out that she was accepted for a "minority grant" for her small business, and she's put "minority-owned" on her business' Facebook page. She is a cishet white woman. When I asked her about it, she said that being a woman meant she was a minority. I told her that on Facebook there's a box right next to minority-owned that says woman-owned, and "minority" is defined as being a group of people that represents less than half of the population in an area, and that grant money was meant for bipoc business owners. She replied mostly talking about classism and sexism, saying the typical white people shit, that she's not privileged and is disadvantaged too, and she needs the money to launch, it's not like she's stealing it, white people deserve grants too, and so on.

When I got home, I looked up information about the grant, and I found that it's funded by a tiny non-profit that requires very little information when submitting; it seems to operate purely on the honor system, as long as submissions have proper bank information and business paperwork. The submission form doesn't ask for race, gender, sexuality, religion, or any information that would point to someone's identity. They seem small and inexperienced, but otherwise very legitimate, and all of the recipients they've featured on their website are bipoc. She hasn't received the money yet, but from what I can tell on their website due to the nature of her business, she will likely receive between $300-$500.

AITA if I go to the nonprofit tomorrow and verify that this grant is meant specifically for bipoc, and enlighten them that she is a white woman if it's only meant for bipoc?

[(Anonymous)]

No, you're NTA. Sad to hear that her husband got medical problems, but that doesn't mean she should misrepresent herself and take away funds that aren't for her. I would say that you should bring proof with you to the non-profit in case they're not initially receptive.

[(Anonymous)]

Thinking back to when we were 15 and we'd write our band guys getting in car accidents, overdosing, getting arrested, talking about their parents beating them up, having a cancer scare, getting admitted to a psych ward, and self-harming all in one publicly posted scene on the fp and nobody would even flinch. Obviously there's a middle ground between that and what we're talking about now, but rp has become so overly sanitized, and it's largely not out of safety concerns, you just want excuses to shit talk people.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know about you but back then I was a teenager writing stupid shit with other teenagers writing stupid unrealistic shit, not a 30+ year old who has more perspective and consideration for the situations others may be experiencing. That's the difference.

[(Anonymous)]

CSA is reasonable to not want on the FP in a comm setting but are there any other subjects people shouldn't write about in RP?

[(Anonymous)]

This will be an unpopular opinion but I have never once seen cancer dealt with well in RP. Not when someone writes it in their own character, and not when they try to write a detailed account of that character's family member having it. It's never tasteful.

[(Anonymous)]

While we're at it can we please stop allowing characters with serious personality disorders? IJ RP doesn't treat the subject of mental illness well at all and it's upsetting to see people getting off on writing manic phases abusing everyone in the process.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

This is why pizza and netflix dominates FPs, never change anons.

[(Anonymous)]

Major health problems in general don't get handled well in RP. Everything from chronic illness to addiction. RPers don't research anything and no one is getting paid to polish their work. They're using dramatic and traumatic things interchangeably for entertainment.

[(Anonymous)]

As a widow, if I want to write a character who has experienced that very unique experience I'm going to
do that and I'll tw the shit out of my posts for you guys but my experience is valid and if I want to write a character who has also experienced it I should be allowed to without shame.

[(Anonymous)]

+1.

[(Anonymous)]

I used to have the most incredible in-depth fandom line with my friend and she got too burnt out IRL to keep writing but I miss collaborating and worldbuilding like that so much and every time I watch a fantasy or sci-fi show or movie I get the feels because I don't think I'll ever have a fun line with so much in depth detail and creativity again :( and BITCH I KNOW YOU'RE IN HERE AND I MISS WRITING WITH YOU.

[(Anonymous)]

I love comments like this, they're a joy compared to the rest of the sludge. I'm glad you have happy memories writing great things with your friend!

[(Anonymous)]

What are we allowed to write about in RP.

[(Anonymous)]

You can write a conventionally attractive white man who's in love with their character and thinks of nothing else.

[(Anonymous)]

I really need to stop visiting this page and reading all the stuff in here. The negativity is so draining.

[(Anonymous)]

For real. Everything is a complaint, criticism, or vague shittalk. The capital letters and screening makes zero difference.

[(Anonymous)]

The puritan movement has apparently also infected IJ writers since I guess if I don’t write about my character having the best day ever I’m not allowed to write it. This last page is so boring and an example of why no one writes publicly anymore here, because even despite a ‘screened’ Anons you will still rip people to shreds for you personally not deeming them talented enough to write things they want to write. TWs are important but if people are using them, scroll by what you don’t want to see instead of thinly thinly veiled shittalking that the Mods have somehow chosen to allow.

[(Anonymous)]

I think my least favorite part of these conversations where you guys decide what is and isn't allowed to be written about in rp is the part where people inevitably say that the reason things aren't allowed to be written about is because they're "never written well." If you want to advocate for TWs or discussing with slps first, yes, absolutely, I will always agree. That being said, in this literal hobby, NOTHING needs to be "written well" (which is incredibly subjective to begin with) as a requirement to participate, and it comes off as so snotty and elitist when you guys talk about other people's writing not being at a high enough standard for them to write about various topics. You're not paying for a subscription to read their narratives, and they're not applying for a job where you're the judge of their fitness; this a hobby for fun. Nobody has to write something that you consider good to be a valid participant in the hobby. Everyone deserves to be here regardless of their skill level. You don't have to sl with them, you don't even have to like them, but it's well past time you moved on from appointing yourself head writing critic.

[(Anonymous)]

Most other servers filter people out in admissions.

[(Anonymous)]

Daily reminder that your triggers are yours to manage.

[(Anonymous)]

I have trauma to hell and back, neurodivergent and with diagnosed c-ptsd and I couldn't fucking agree more.

[(Anonymous)]

I would like to thank Beyonce for the Renaissance tour because it is literally the only thing bringing some people any joy in their lives it looks like two hours of the most ultimate bliss that a person could experience just from the energy in the venues.

[(Anonymous)]

The anon that keeps advocating that white people aren't entitled to their trauma needs to fucking stop spouting their bullshit, and the mods need to stop unscreening it.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree completely. What do they expect from people? If you don't want to read a narrative about a white character, just don't click the link.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry but if you can't avoid posts where there is a clear tw you shouldn't be complaining. People can write whatever they want to and trying to say that they shouldn't is weirdly controlling.

[(Anonymous)]

Why do people use non-clumping litter?

[(Anonymous)]

I know you are supposed to use it for kittens just in case they ingest some litter but generally it is safe to use for adult cats so past kittenhood I have no idea? In that case I would rather use a pellet alternative than non clumping litter anyway.

[(Anonymous)]

You're going to scare people out of writing anything remotely interesting.

[(Anonymous)]

The fact you only find trauma dumping like a CW show or Euphoria says a lot about all of you.

[(Anonymous)]

Anons are so boring and conservative. There are so many boomer takes that happen in here consistently.

[(Anonymous)]

I was thinking the same thing. These are people my own age and they act and think like my grandma. Not even my parents are like this.

[(Anonymous)]

While I don't believe in heavily curating or sanitizing content beyond banning a few topics and using tws, I wish a place that filtered people out through examples rather than admitting everyone with the proper aesthetics still existed.

[(Anonymous)]

The problem is that banned topics are never listed.

[(Anonymous)]

This conversation reminded me why I should never join comms because some of you are so controlling over what other people do and it's exhausting.

[(Anonymous)]

Traumadumping isn't acceptable anywhere.

[(Anonymous)]

Former SLP, I don't want a new line or anything, I just want to know if you're at Courty because I love and miss you and just want to see you thriving and admire from afar.

[(Anonymous)]

Hint?